Words of Wisdom

"People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.

Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.

Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will wind some false friends and some true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat on you.

Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight.

Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.

Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough.

Give the world the best you have got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.

It was never between you and them anyway."

(Mother Teresa of Calcutta)

my take on tis :

do everything for urself, not for others, not even ur loved ones and certainly not for anyone else hoo doesn't matter anyway.

do something becoz u want to, not becoz u tink ppl tink u should.

when u do things of ur own accord, u'll b happy tat u did watever u want to. u derive happiness from ur actions and not by measuring it by its returns ie. others reciprocating

and by setting the record rite tat u r doing the things for ur loved ones becoz YOU want to, it sets the expectations or rather it eliminates the expectation of them doing rite by u too.

u r accountable for ur own happiness, no one else owes u tat so dun find excuses or push the responsiblility to someone else. i find it especially sad when ppl expect their happiness to b derived from their loved ones.

if u love them and they love u back in watever way, whether big or small. b grateful. they dun haf to love u unless they want to.

and dun tink tat by deferring ur own happiness by 'sacrificing' for ur loved ones, u r being noble. hoo r u to judge if ur loved ones r happier juz becoz u made a 'sacrifice'?

if they love u, they'll b happier if u r happier. so b good to urself.

i m selfish but at least i m honest to myself. and tat's all tat matters at the end of the day.