KFC for dinner (again!)

no prizes for guessing wat we had for dinner yest.
tis time it's at east coast KFC for LJ & moi and kallang KFC for YT & HQ. haha

every other wed is KFC day for us after YT's physio.

it was a good meet-up. everyone got to speak their piece & vent some frustrations

HQ abt SGH & her URA parking fine
Moi abt ah boon's intro of mi ( wat gf's fren?! i'm his fren first! )
LJ abt her changing flights
YT spoke abt the screw in her leg & how the doc shoved it thru her bone by force...gory details to be having after dinner.

of course, we tok at length abt other interesting topics too.

i particularly like the debate abt the purpose of marriage & exclusivity in relationships.

call mi old fashioned but i will expect exclusivity in relationships if i haf a bf.
of course, dating or juz seeing each other (no matter how regularly) not counted lah.

anyway, i dun realli believe in having to try going out wif other ppl in order to find out if he's the one. if he's the one, i wun wana see other guys...plain as tat

i always say tat there's no switch tat u turn on after marriage & u stop being attracted to other ppl. there will always b temptation around. but even before marriage, when u realise tat he's the one, u juz haf to respect each other for exclusivity to exist.

but it can b a case of mutual agreement on non exclusivity too.

and i dun believe tat when there're more choices, u can make a better selection.

tis ties back to my realisation of the trap i keep falling into. most of my relationships start off in a triangle kinda situation & i'll make my choice. BUT, wat r my options?

it should b 1) A君, 2) B君 AND most imptly C) none of the above

i dun tink of C) at all and always end up wif option A) or B).
do u see wat my problem is now?
i tink it's due to my "不甘寂寞"...sigh, luckily i'm beyond tat now. my choice will always b C) from now on or rather i wun choose again.

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marriage

a few skools of thots here among us :

1. marriage should b a contractual agreement with validity period and renewal is based on evaluation....hmm...interesting
2. marriage is to protect the interest of the women in case of the double D, divorce or death. well, i am too independent to haf to rely on tis and death can always be covered by will
3. marriage is onli necessary if u want kids...hmm...i haf kids so tat's beyond mi nw...haha
4. there's no need for marriage ( tat's my opinion of course! )

but we all agree tat marriage does nuthing to enhance the relationship

there was an interview tat i saw where the couple has been together for many many yrs without marriage and they haf kids & everything.

i was touched when the guy said tat becoz they're not married, he'll work harder at the relationship. issit it better for the couple if they treat each other like gf/bf all the time? constant courtship....wow!

of course, there'r unmarried couples tat break up after being tog for yrs too. mayb they haf settled into the monotony trap of the married couple when there'r no more butterflies in the stomach. sigh, i do miss tis feeling but i dun seem to b capable of tat anymore....sad rite.

unfortunately for BGR, feelings fade & die if both parties dun work hard at keeping the love alive.

luckily, friendship juz gets better & better even if u dun see all ur frens everyday. but muz put in effort to mit up & share & support each other too lah.

i always say i treat my frens (both guys & gers) better den my bf...haha.

i haf broken up wif someone juz becoz of wat he said abt my frens (& moi)...haha...abit exaggerated but true leh...i was abit wilful of course. he didn't ask mi to choose bet my frens & him. but i got offended & to stand true to my frens, i made a choice & my choice was clear.

i am simply not the kind hoo can choose a guy over my frens. thankfully, i will nbr b faced wif tis situation again.

but poor guy, to tis day, he has no idea wat went wrong coz i didn't bother to tell him.

i m beli self-centred & stubborn. if i made up my mind, i wun bother to even explain.

wat's the point of explanation when i m not interested in his response? watever he says or does will nbr change my mind coz i m not impulsive. i will haf my reasons for my decision & nuthing will move mi.

and i believe there's karma...being hurt once is once too many